In popular culture, there appears to be an increasing acceptance of and curiosity toward butt play. Whether you call it bottoming, pegging, or simply butt stuff, those who have a prostate gland, otherwise known as the “P-spot” or male G-spot, and it’s worth exploring. It is important to experiment with different angles, heights, and positions of both you and your partner (or toy) to see how best to stimulate your P-spot. For beginners who don't want to jump straight to penetration, simply stimulating your perineum (the area between your anus and scrotum) via rubbing or stroking is a great introduction to your p-spot. Because the P-spot is towards your stomach, you need to pay close attention to the curvature of your partner or your toy. However, there are prostate-specific toys that are great for beginners since they were designed to take the guesswork out of this type of stimulation. If either of these curves upward, then the best way to hit your P-spot is by facing each other. This means missionary and cowboy (and any variations of these) will be best. On the other hand, if your partner or toy curves downward, you’ll want to try positions where you aren’t facing each other, like a reverse cowboy, doggy, and spooning. Of course, any position can feel great, but if you truly want to experience a P-spot climax, finding the right position will help maximize your pleasure.

More than one position within an encounter can increase both your pleasure and your intimacy. For instance, making love can feel more intimate face-to-face, eye-to-eye while rear entry might give you the stronger climax. Secondly, each of you may respond better to one position than another and it likely won’t be the same position. So perhaps you can make love in a way that helps her reach climax including the opportunity for him to also manually stimulate during intercourse if needed and then you switch to what works best for him. Then both of you get what turns you on most.

How can I experience the male G-spot’s benefits in the bedroom?

The prostate is a highly sought-after area of pleasure because it is surrounded by nerve endings. When you climax while stimulating your P-spot (known as a prostate orgasm), it will feel relatively similar to having an orgasm just from touching yourself, except that it is way more intense and can be felt throughout the entire body.

Whether you experience pleasure, pain, or unprecedented ecstasy comes down to your pelvic floor angulation, the angle of insertion, what size toy or penis you're inserting, etc. For some people, the sensations at first may feel like you have to use the bathroom (don’t worry—if you’ve prepared with the Future Method Intimate Wash, you won’t actually go). With time and experience, you’ll get used to this.

Missionary Sex Position

While this may sound basic and not at all interesting, this couldn't be further from the truth when you are two men doing the anal version of the missionary sex position.  Both tops and bottoms can enjoy this position and it allows for greater communication and connection to be face-to-face while having anal sex. You can also kiss sweetly. Missionary works the same for two men as it does for a man and a woman for the most part. One guy (the bottom) lies on his back, legs open and raised up slightly. His partner (the top) positions himself on top, using his arms and legs to hold him steady while he inserts his penis into the anus. 

Doggie Style

The doggy style position is great for a good, hard, fast thrusting, the bottom is on hands and knees, backside to their partner's penis, while the top penetrates his anus.  This way the top can pull the bottom into him by holding onto his waist. This position also allows the bottom to either self-masturbate or be masturbated by the top.

Cliff Diver

For you swimming enthusiasts, or those of you who just appreciate a man in a Speedo (a man in a Speedo who does a Speedo justice, that is), here's your chance to dive into your partner like you've never done before.  Like the doggie style, the bottom gets on all fours on the ground. The top then gets behind the bottom and with proper lubrication and protection, enters the bottom. The top then simultaneously stands and lifts their partner up by the thighs or waist so that the bottom can wrap his legs around the top's back. 

Knee Up, Keep It Up

If you've never had your booty exposed, just know this gay sex position is about maximum exposure. Think of it as a reverse child's pose in yoga. The bottom lays down on a couch (bed, floor, table, the hood of a car, etc.) while the top grasps the bottom's ankles, calves, or knees (whatever is comfortable for the bottom) and simultaneously pushes the legs back toward the bottom's chest as the top inserts his penis. The more the legs get pushed back, the tighter the backside feels.

Variation: The bottom stays in the same position while the top lays perpendicular and sideways to the bottom.

Rockin' In The Rocking Chair

The top lays back pulling knees to chest. The bottom sits backward between the top's legs, inserting the top's penis into himself. Once comfortable and fully astride, the bottom begins a rhythmic motion of rocking back and forth to his liking.

Rusty Trombone

This is a win for both the top and bottom, and it's a simple extension of a favorite (for most) sex position — 69! For this one there is no top or bottom — it's equal roles, equal opportunity. One partner lies on his back on a bed, pool table, diving board, or floor (you get the point, a flat surface). Partner number two straddles the chest and positions his butt close to his partner's face. From there, your guy dives in to perform analingus. 

Important note: Showering and cleansing recommended before embarking upon this journey.

See-Saw

This gay sex position requires the giving partner to be in shape (eh, a little ab definition wouldn't hurt either), as they'll be getting a heck of a workout. Also, a chair is required. This is the breakdown of how it works: The top lies on the ground and props their calves up on a chair while keeping his body straight. The bottom straddles the top's legs and inserts the penis into his partner. At that point, either party can begin the rhythmic motion of their choosing.

Squatter's Rights

This is for those who love performing fellatio, getting fellatio, and having your nipples played with. This is another mutual pleasure position. One partner lies flat on their back, you know, wherever it feels good, while the other squats and hovers just over their partner's face, facing nipples and penis. While balancing, your partner reaches forward, grabs your nipples in each hand while simultaneously lowering himself into his partner's mouth. A variation for the week-legged is to rest on your knees on either side of your partner's head. Analingus is a popular pastime in this position.

I Can Fly

For this gay sex position, the top sits in a chair trying to keep his body as elongated as possible. The bottom straddles the top facing toward him or away from him (both require the bottom to be capable of extreme feats of balance). If the bottom is facing the top, straddled and mounted, with the top's penis inside, the bottom leans back, allowing the top to grasp his wrists to facilitate balance. The bottom then lifts up his legs and starts to fly through the air backward as the top controls the thrusting. To fly like a superhero in this position, the bottom straddles the top, mounting and inserting the top's penis into himself. Once mounted, the bottom leans forward, thrusting his arms back to the top so that top can grasp the bottom's wrists. Once engaged, the bottom lifts legs, flying forward with the greatest of ease, letting the top control the rhythm.

Written by Dude Arnel Flores Lopez, BSN, RN  08 May 2021