For all the sexual taboos that have been dismantled, period sex is still a big one. But whether you're nervous about venturing into the wide world of period sex for the first time or you’ve been an enthusiast for years but still worry about the logistics, we're here to tell you: Fret not! There are plenty of great reasons to indulge in the joys of sex during your period, and a ton of ways to maximize pleasure when doing it.

A lot of us turn our noses up at the idea of period sex, for a plethora of reasons. Some, believe it to be unclean or unhygienic (false). Some think it will make their pain worse (Not always true, in many cases it can actually alleviate pain). Some pass out at the sight of blood (Okay, we will give you a pass on this one).

We have been somewhat brainwashed into the notion that menstruation is dirty, unclean or should be suppressed. This dates all the way back to Leviticus 15:19-33. “Whenever a woman has her menstrual period, she will be ceremonially unclean for seven days. Anyone who touches her during that time will be unclean until evening.”. It is 2021, about time we start re-thinking these outdated notions.

More comfort around messiness can break down barriers to sexual enjoyment. Studies have shown that people who have higher arousal are less grossed out by bodily fluids and ‘messy period sex. At the end of the day, if it is you simply do not feel comfortable with period sex; that is your prerogative. But lets’ talk about why we might embrace the unusual joy that is period sex.

Women tend to get hornier during their period.

It’s a blessing and a curse. Changes in hormones can make some women feel more sexually aroused and ready to pounce on the nearest hot-blooded human.  These feels are somewhat diminished by the fact that for at least the first few days, you typically feel like an extremely un-sexy, bloated manatee. Sexual attention, and being admired during this time in which you are not feeling at your peak attractiveness can be a wonderful confidence boost.

Can you have sex on your period?

First things first, a lot of people still question whether you can have sex on your period.

The answer is a definite yes. In fact, it can be particularly pleasurable. The hormonal changes that happen during your period—namely increased estrogen and testosterone levels—lead to intensified arousal (and sensitivity). Your vagina is actually more open and receptive at this time, so if there was a position you were trying to do, but it didn't work so well in the past, now is the time.

Can you have oral sex on your period?

Having oral sex on your period is perfectly safe. Your main concern is probably the mess, but luckily, there are plenty of options like menstrual cups and menstrual discs (more on those below) that will help keep your oral action blood free. Oral sex is also the perfect time to focus on stimulating the clitoris, which (in case you need the anatomy refresher) sits outside the vaginal canal on your vulva. 

What are the benefits of having period sex?

One of the most obvious benefits of period sex is increased pleasure. “When you have your period, your hormones are in overdrive, which means you might find it even easier to orgasm from touch or penetration.

Orgasm can also help ease any period cramps. “Orgasm will release feel-good chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins—our body’s natural painkillers—that can ease the pain of menstrual cramps and bloating. Plus, some women find period sex to be more enjoyable overall. “One of the great things about period sex is that you don't need any lube because you’re already incredibly wet, which means some positions are actually easier for some women to be in. Some experts suggest sticking to one position so as not to create a mess, but I say go for it. 

There's also some evidence that having sex on your period can shorten it. With every orgasm that shoots oxytocin into your body to alleviate cramps, the contraction that accompanies the orgasm helps to flush out the uterine lining faster than if left to its own devices. This isn’t to suggest that one romp will lead to your period being gone by the morning, but it will shorten it enough that you might notice a difference.

Orgasms can ease back pain, cramps and symptoms of PMS

Orgasms cause the release of oxytocin and dopamine along with various endorphins that not only activate the pleasure centres of the brain but can also alleviate pain, including those debilitating cramps. If you can work in a lower back massage as part of the foreplay, you might find yourself a completely relaxed puddle of goo after the whole experience. It’s worth noting that this is not the reality for every woman, but you’ll never know until you try.

It can decrease the length of your period

Contractions of the vaginal wall and uterine muscles caused by both penetration and orgasm can speed the release of menstrual blood. Hallelujah, it’s the cure we have been waiting for! If you could decrease your period potentially by DAYS, why wouldn’t you seize that opportunity?

It forces you out of your comfort zones and is a highly intimate experience.

For many, this might be a completely new and possibly terrifying or intimidating experience. It may bring you closer, and enhance feelings of intimacy between yourself and your partner. It may allow you to break down barriers and really express feelings of love and acceptance of each other in all of your states of being. It also takes communication and understanding, vital elements of any relationship.

Built in natural lubrication:

I’m sure most of you just pulled a face, but it’s true. Particularly for women who might not lubricate naturally as easily as others, menstrual fluids can provide a viscous and efficient lubrication.

Period sex tips:

Okay, so you want to try period sex. Here's how to make it as pleasurable as possible.

“Remember that anticipation often heightens arousal and can make your orgasms even more intense," says Morse. Translation: Indulge in extra foreplay. "Although you might not be comfortable receiving oral sex, you can guide your partner to spend time playing with your nipples, teasing your inner thighs, and gently breathing on your clitoris, which can be just the stimulation you need to intensify your orgasms.”

Even though “messy” sex can be some of the hottest sex, if it makes you self-conscious, some people find the cleansing shower setting helps loosen inhibitions.

“If you‘re squeamish about the blood, try having sex in the shower, which will wash it all away as you cavort, or in the bathtub,” shares Gloria Brame, sex therapist and author of Sex for Grown-Ups.

If you're worried about staining, you can cover up your regular sheets with a blanket to retrofit your bed for period sex. “You can even get special bedding such as a rubber sheet to protect your bed,” says Chavez.

Unlike menstrual cups or tampons, menstrual discs can be worn during sex. The flexible disks are inserted into the vaginal canal just like a tampon but sit higher up into your vagina, at the vaginal fornix. This allows you to have penetrative sex without the mess. 

“When you‘re on your period, some women report more pelvic congestion, which is a heaviness that [may] trigger arousal,” says Costa. “This is why some women report wanting to have more sex while on their period, versus none at all.” Gentle positions like spooning can be a perfect way to enjoy sex right now, adds Morse: “You can play with the depth of penetration and different angles to make sure it works for you.” (The same goes for missionary!)

If one of you is squeamish about blood, try using a blindfold. “Your period is the perfect time to elevate sex by exploring other senses like sight and sound,” says Shallon Lester, author of dating memoir Exes and Ohs and YouTube sex and dating expert. “You don‘t have to go full-on Fifty Shades with all kinds of leather contraptions—just peel off your shirt and toss it over your partner’s eyes, then pin their hands and tell them they can’t move or peek. Every sense will be heightened, and you can play around with sensations, from nails to nibbles, with more bang for your buck.”

“Not everyone is into [period sex], but that doesn't mean you have to eliminate sex altogether,” says Costa. “There are plenty of other ways to seek pleasure with one another that don‘t have to do with [actual intercourse].” Get started heating things up by exploring some of these surprising erogenous zones. We‘re talking ears, hands, stomach—even the bottoms of the feet.

Although your cervix is closed most of the time, it opens during childbirth and when you’re menstruating. “One function of the cervix is to protect your uterus from bacteria that may enter the vagina during intercourse,” says board-certified registered nurse Jennifer Tine. “During periods it opens slightly to allow the uterus to shed. This opens a small gateway for bacteria to enter the uterus, increasing the possibility of infection.” So, even if you’re in a committed relationship, you still want to use a condom during period sex. The last thing you want is an infection you could have avoided, especially in that part of your body. Make sure all period sex is safe period sex. 

Only 55% of adults engage in sex during that time of the month, according to a study by Flex. If you haven't tried it, you just might find that you really like it. For many couples who haven't tried period sex, giving it a go can be an exciting chance to overcome a fear of the unknown. Who knows? You just might love it. And if not, you never have to do it again.